The power of validation has to come from yourself, not just from others. A client just said after sharing her wins with me…. ‘I’m so proud of myself!’ ‘You should be, you deserve to be’ was all I needed to say, because she was not looking for compliments or validation from ME, she’d just realised […]
At this time of year relationships can be especially hard, but a relationship with a Narcissist can be impossible…..
It’s easy to think ‘things will be different this year’ or maybe even if you’re heading towards waking up to your situation, ‘this Christmas is his (or her) last chance.’ Be aware that at this time of year, many of us will be more vulnerable and more insecure than usual. Let’s face it, all the […]
How the greatest love stories develop into the messiest relationships, the most traumatic break-ups and how healing is possible Many of my clients come to me filled with so much shame over their break-up they can’t even verbalise it. They are at a loss as to how they could have been so stupid to not […]
Since the traumatic break down and break up of my own narcissistic relationship, this is what I have gained……… 3 months after I left…….. I have cried less in the last three months than I cried in a single block of two weeks over the last 18 months while I was with him. I have […]