Happy Valentines Day!
Was it filled with love or another year of sadness and disappointment? Hold onto your broken heart on Valentines Day and always (Image by Dreamstime.com) Yesterday was Valentines Day. When I was single in my teens and early twenties, I used to really struggle with Valentines Day. It felt like that day existed to rub […]
I got Grey Rock wrong but I think my version is WAY better!
Why should we shrink to a Grey Rock when we don’t have to? Grey Rock or Pebble? You or them? Who cares, let them go! (Picture by Dreamtimes.com) Imagine yourself as a grey rock. No. Nope. No thank you. Absolutely no way! I only recently realised that the ‘Grey Rock’ method involved you thinking of […]
Blue Monday and Divorce Day – Don’t you just love January?!?
Picture courtesy of dreamstime.com So we’ve reached Blue Monday already. It falls on the third Monday of January each year and is claimed to be the unhappiest, most depressing day of the year. Is it any wonder when there’s so much collective trauma right now? Still recovering from the Pandemic and the endless political issues, […]
It’s times like these you learn to live again
It’s times like these you learn to live again Singing to myself the songs that helped heal me In 2021 while I was on a grief retreat, something magical happened. I was able to listen to music again! Not just any songs but those that were ‘our songs’ — the ones I shared with […]
Narcissists & good people: How UK Politics mirrors our own relationships
OMG! I’ve just been listening to Liz Truss’ final words as she left her very temporary home at 10 Downing Street with her family today. What an absolutely awful individual, thank God she’s out. Her poor children. My kids have a go at me when I play my music too loudly in the car or […]
Married At First Sight UK: I KNEW he was one of them :(
Today I had lunch with my cousin and we were discussing “Married At First Sight UK’ currently on TV. ‘That George Hon, he’s trouble,’ I said. ‘His jealousy and manipulation is off the chats. He’s got issues and that is NOT going to be a healthy relationship, April has already shrunk as a person.’ When […]
I’m So Proud Of You!
The power of validation has to come from yourself, not just from others. A client just said after sharing her wins with me…. ‘I’m so proud of myself!’ ‘You should be, you deserve to be’ was all I needed to say, because she was not looking for compliments or validation from ME, she’d just realised […]
At this time of year relationships can be especially hard, but a relationship with a Narcissist can be impossible…..
It’s easy to think ‘things will be different this year’ or maybe even if you’re heading towards waking up to your situation, ‘this Christmas is his (or her) last chance.’ Be aware that at this time of year, many of us will be more vulnerable and more insecure than usual. Let’s face it, all the […]
How the greatest love stories develop into the messiest relationships, the most traumatic break-ups and how healing is possible Many of my clients come to me filled with so much shame over their break-up they can’t even verbalise it. They are at a loss as to how they could have been so stupid to not […]
3 Months on……
Since the traumatic break down and break up of my own narcissistic relationship, this is what I have gained……… 3 months after I left…….. I have cried less in the last three months than I cried in a single block of two weeks over the last 18 months while I was with him. I have […]